“Love is a word, what matters is the connection that word implies” — The Matrix Revolution.
Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives. Neurobiologically we're wired to feel connected – this is at the core of being human. According to well vetted qualitative research data by Brene Brown, only one key variable separates the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle to experience connection. The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. Our beliefs and fears that we are not worthy of connection is what keeps us out of genuine connection.
People who believe they are WORTHY of love and belonging share in common:
Courage. Courage is from the Latin word "cor," meaning "heart" -- and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. In relationships it takes courage to be imperfect.
Compassion. Relationships require compassion – compassion to be kind to both ourselves and to others.
Authenticity. Relationships require one to be willing to let go of who they thought they should be in the relationship and be who they really are; this is a necessity for a genuine connection.
Vulnerability. Relationships require one to embrace vulnerability. Vulnerability is not comfortable, but it does not have to be excruciating. Vulnerability is just necessary. Being vulnerable means the willingness to say, "I love you" first and the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees, being willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.
Living from this deep sense of worthiness with our whole hearts, minds, and actions will give us more purpose, meaning and joy in our lives ...and love!